Ok I don't condone cheating because in my little life time I have been cheated on once and it hurt... But that title was something that has been running threw my head all day.
I would like to start by saying how naive I think people are now-a-days with relationships. As I get older I have come to the realization that relationships don't become really exclusive until one is married, and it is not realistic to believe that one will get married at 21 or 20 or even in the early 20's and it work out. NO I am not a bitter woman, I am just a realist. There is just too much growth that happens in your early 20's for a man OR a woman to settle down at these ages.
NOW back to the title.
People BE HONEST!!! yeah sounds silly but it works.
In my experiences it does not run people away... and it wont in yours either. Tell the people you are "talking to" /dating if you are seeing other people chances are at 20 they are too. yeah they are..... and if you guys are honest maybe one day you both could become exclusive and then you'd have a fighting chance because you started out honest and open.
hmmm
Oh yes, for guys who have girlfriends and are some what seeing other people, if you happen to be with your girlfriend DO NOT pick up the phone and act weird... if you are uncomfortable don't answer. If your gf can't handle other girls calling don't answer explain later... NOT HELLA LATER but when you leave, say something like "Sorry I was with my girl or with a friend I couldn't really hold a convo then what's up?" Thats considerate and will get you a long way.
Thats all I have I guess. I don't like cheating or cheaters.
I am no Home Wrecker.
But what I have really been wanting to Scream at guys about lately is PERSISTENCE LEADING TO INDIFFERENCE.
Once again let me explain. (this is a really common problem however)
Guys try their hardest to get a girl, get her number, get her to be their gf, get her to have sex with them etc... But whatever they want out of this girl they go hard for. They put in 178% NO forget that they put in 100,000% but then when they get whatever it is they were aiming for, and it can be as simple as the girl liking them back, they become indifferent with the girl. Like all of a sudden they don't care either way anymore. Let me be the 1st to say THIS SUCKS.
Guys please stop this.... go all the way or go home.
I am a single girl, I don't even consider myself to be "talking to" or dating anyone and I see this problem O too often. And it is the reason I don't date. Guys step your game up before the end of 08!
A$
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and here i thought i missed being single, but you just reminded me why i got married! you should come by my bloggy giveaway.. fun girl stuff! http://nowenteringmomville.blogspot.com/2008/08/giveaway-for-grown-ups.html
stumbled upon this blog... and this is some real shit. being a 23 year old male I know exactly what you're talking about. We as men go HARD until we get what we want and then all of a sudden the indifference hits. It's happend to me a few times. My last major relationship I was in for two years, after the thrill of chasing what I wanted was gone (about 3 months in) the rest of the relationship became dead space. It's weird, I never thought it would be like that especially considering how much effort i really did put in to start. For instance in the "prooving period" as I'd call it, the early stages of dating and of the relationship, i would drop almost anything to be with her (including missing work/school). After I felt that I had proven myself I'd be cancelling on her, hanging out with my other friends way more than her, etc. The crazy thing is, our relationship carried on, we told eachother that we loved eachother, we enjoyed the moments that we did have together, but they were fewer and much farther in between than before. I'd had it happen to me before and told myself if the right one came along i wouldn't do that to her or myself, but it happend. even when we decided to part ways that was her main reason for doing so, and I totally agreed with her. I was stupid, i got what I wanted and i became too comfortable. Comfort makes you complacent and complacency destroys relationships. I want to believe the complacency is gone, i just guess it will take another one of the "right ones" for me to find out.
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